I have noticed a pattern in my behaviour: I tend to settle for things. Things that I’m not crazy about, but which are “just fine”, so I would feel bad if I “spoiled it”.
I labeled this as fear of being ungrateful for many years. And this fear made me lower my standards from “crème de la crème” to just “crème”. Maybe all the way down to expired milk, in some cases. And yes, you shouldn’t always demand the very best of life. Sometimes, you should be happy for what you do get. But you shouldn’t compromise your self-worth to avoid uncomfortable situations either.
It was fear, all right, but not for ungratefulness. It was for standing up for myself. Believing that I also could reach great achievements. Underlining that I was worth something, and that I wouldn’t settle for anything less than what I deserved. I dare to assert that I know I’m not the only one that settles for things. And why? Because it takes a little more time, a little more work to reach beyond what’s “just fine”. And it’s scary sometimes. But think about what could happen if you did stretch a little further. If you went all-in, head first in things, instead of doing them half-hearted. If you truly believed that you could achieve this, and went through with it. If you reached your goal.
Sometimes, you’re deceiving yourself into thinking that something is “just fine”, when in reality it’s something far away from fine. But you’ll feel like it’s “just fine” because, sadly, it’s all you have. But what if you left these low standards for what you deserve behind, and, ignoring how terrifying it all is, aimed for something better for you?
Stop being mediocre, just like some other guy. We have enough of them already. We have too many, actually. What I wish to see, is a decrease in the number of mediocre, “just like anybody else”-people. I want to see these ordinary flower buds blossom into a meadow of resourceful, unique people ready to make a change in the world. That’s what I want to see. People who know their true self-worth, and who has the courage to stand up for what they believe is right, both for themselves, and the others around them. People that doesn’t settle for expired milk. People who dare to speak up and say “I deserve better than this.”, whether it’s a toxic relationship, a lousy job or the way others are treating you in general.
Because you do. You do deserve the best. Just don’t forget that so does everybody else, so don’t treat them otherwise. Stay humble. Try again. Reach higher. If it makes you happy, you’re probably doing it right.